Rejection day

I’m not going to dwell on this because it was horrific 

I’d had quite a good day today with Pickle but she’d whined quite a bit and I was looking forward to Daddy P getting home to “take over” for half an hour. He’d also just done his first early day having started his new hours of 08:00-16:30 which means he gets home at 17:00 so will have longer with Pickle. I was excited. He was excited. Pickle was definitely not excited!

As soon as he walked in the door there was a shift in atmosphere. Then, to cut a long story short, she screamed, cried, tantrummed, wailed, screamed some more and pushed him away for an hour and 40 minutes. It was definitely not nice. In the end Daddy P sent me upstairs because I was getting upset, getting in the way and was “there” too much, if that makes sense. It’s hard seeing your best friend get rejected like that and I struggled with it.

He managed, a while later, to calm her but only until he brought her upstairs to get her ready for bed and then it started again. It was horrific. We felt drained and that moment in time made us wonder what we’d done.

I can’t go in to it any more because I don’t want to re-live it, but it’s a moment in time which needs to be documented. It’s never going to be all hearts and flowers, less so in our situation, harder in our situation, we never expected it to be easy. But that rejection was something we’d not prepared ourselves for fully. We thought we had because we were told that it might happen but earlier than this, not 12 weeks in. People often talk of a honeymoon period with children, maybe we’d had our honeymoon and that signified the end of it.

We’ve talked about what happened and we’ve come up with some possible answers and some strategies but I don’t think we’ll ever really know why that happened. It may be that I gave him attention and she didn’t like it. It may be that she was trying to divide and conquer (she’ll never win that one!) It may be that she’d had a plan set in her mind and Daddy P walking in changed it and she wasn’t having it. Or it may be as simple as something like she was tired. Whatever the reason I hope it doesn’t happen again but, if it does, we will be more prepared.

We were just glad to get in to bed that night and sleep! 
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